Creating A Safe Space for Writing

On the what, why, and how of safe writing spaces

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Hello dear readers!

In the early days of my memoir writing, I had the naive belief that I could simply sit down, and like magic, words would flow effortlessly from my thoughts, down my writing arm, through my fingers, and land elegantly on the page.

Oh, how mistaken I was!

It took me years, and perhaps more pages than I’d like to admit, to realize that for my words to truly flow, I needed two essential things: (1) a safe writing space, and (2) a writerly mindset I could trust to be there when I needed it.

Covering both of these topics in a single post would be impossible, so today, I’ll begin by exploring the what, why, and how of creating a safe writing space. Next week, we’ll start to delve into strategies for cultivating a writerly mindset.

What is a safe space for writing?

In this context, when I talk about a "safe space," I mean an environment that nurtures trust, openness, and non-judgmental support. It’s a space where I can feel free to express my thoughts, emotions, and personal stories without fear of criticism, judgment, or harm. For me, it's about creating a sanctuary where my inner voice can be heard, allowing me to explore and share my truths with courage and compassion.

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Why is it important to create a safe space for writing?

The importance of creating a safe space for self-expression cannot be overstated.

When I feel secure and supported, I am more likely to engage authentically with my feelings and experiences. This sense of safety is especially crucial when I’m delving into personal vulnerabilities that are sensitive, emotional, or connected to past trauma.

In these safe and supportive environments, I can begin to touch and explore—perhaps for the first time—the raw essence of my experiences. It's within this space that I often start journeys of self-discovery, and for some, these explorations can lead to paths of healing.

Each of our life narratives is shaped by a unique blend of experiences, emotions, and perspectives, reflecting the human condition in ways only we have lived. While others might find echoes of their own stories in ours, no two narratives will ever be exactly the same. Recognising this vulnerability is the first step in understanding why we need safe spaces to explore our stories.

It takes immense courage to open up and share our personal stories. When I first began working on my memoir, I found it incredibly challenging to open up to myself and the blank page, let alone entertain the idea of sharing my words with others.

Have you ever felt that way?

Perhaps you’ve experienced something similar, especially when reflecting on moments filled with deep emotions, pain, or trauma.

How might you recognise and respect the courage within yourself to write about these experiences?

Acknowledging this bravery is essential in creating an environment where we can feel safe enough to learn how to express ourselves authentically.

The fear of judgment or rejection can also be a significant barrier to writing and sharing our personal narratives.

Have you noticed how this fear might hold you back?

In a safe space, we can begin to overcome this fear, knowing that our experiences will be met with empathy, understanding, and validation.

Whether we are confronting our own inner critic or sharing our stories with a trusted circle of friends for the first time, how might we create the conditions that allow us to feel safe and heard?

Without an awareness of these elements, we may struggle to create the safe spaces needed to gently uncover our memories. The rich potential within our personal stories could remain hidden, held back by our own reservations and the instinct to self-censor.

© Helen Errington: Me writing in my Safe Space surrounded by my totems!

How to find, or make, a safe place for writing

Here are some elements I’ve considered when setting-up my safe writing space(s):

1. Privacy and seclusion:

• Location: Finding a space where I can write without interruptions is essential for both concentration and privacy. This has ranged from a quiet room in my home (even if just for an hour) to a secluded corner of the garden. You might find your safe space in a park, a library, or even a cozy spot in a café during off-peak hours—anywhere that feels right for you.

• Limit distractions: I find that reducing external disturbances really helps me stay more connected to my thoughts and the flow of writing. Whenever possible, I try to turn off notifications, choosing peaceful places away from distracting noises, and write during times when I know I’m less likely to be interrupted. When it works, creating this kind of space feels like a gift to myself and the creative process!

2. Comfort and atmosphere:

• Physical comfort: Physical comfort is crucial for me, especially as I manage back pain and chronic fatigue. A supportive chair that eases my back, gentle lighting that doesn’t strain my eyes, and ergonomic tools all help me stay comfortable. Creating a space that supports my body allows me to focus on my writing without distraction, making it easier to engage with my thoughts and words.

• Personal touches: Adding personal touches brings a sense of warmth and comfort to my writing space. I might light a calming candle, keep a cherished photo nearby, or place an inspiring quote where I can see it. Sentimental objects or personal totems add a layer of connection and meaning (see my photo above!).

3. Emotional safety:

• Create emotional boundaries: I’ve learned to establish emotional boundaries within my writing space. This has involved setting clear intentions about the emotional energy I want to bring into my writing and cultivating an atmosphere that will support my well-being. Whether it’s through calming mindful rituals, like taking a few deep breaths before I start, or simply reminding myself that this is to be a judgment-free zone, these boundaries help me feel secure and centred.

• Positive associations: I’ve made our previously unused backroom my writing space, filled with the elements that bring me comfort and calm. Natural light filters through the patio doors, offering a view of the garden trees, and the soft sounds of birdsong drift in, creating a peaceful atmosphere. The changing light throughout the day mirrors the sky’s moods. My bookshelves, filled with works by my favorite writers and poets, provide quiet inspiration. My two dogs and two cats often join me, their presence bringing a sense of companionship. In this space, surrounded by nature and books, I feel grounded and encouraged to write.

4. Digital security:

• Password protection: When I write on my computer, I make sure to password-protect my files to maintain confidentiality. This is especially important for me if my memoir includes sensitive or personal information that I’m not ready to share. Having a secure password helps me feel that my private thoughts are safe.

• Backup procedures: Having learned the hard way(!), I’ve set up regular backup procedures to protect my writing projects from potential loss. This practice guards against technical issues and spares me the emotional panic and distress of having to rewrite sensitive memories from scratch. Knowing I’ve taken steps to securely back up my work allows me to focus on writing without the constant worry of losing it.

5. Supportive resources:

• Writing tools: I find comfort in having my favourite writing tools nearby. A beloved notebook or a favorite pen can make all the difference, turning writing into a familiar, soothing ritual. These simple things help me feel more grounded and connected to my words.

• Reference materials: When I need to include specific details about a place or historical context, I like to have my reference materials ready before I start. This gentle preparation not only helps keep my writing accurate and authentic but also ensures that I stay present in the moment, avoiding the distraction of getting lost in endless “research rabbit holes.”

6. Mindfulness and reflection:

• Incorporate mindfulness practices: Introducing mindfulness into my writing routine has been a true game-changer. The practices I use can vary, depending on my mood and the nature of my work. Sometimes it’s a few deep breaths, other times it can be a mindful pause, some gentle mindful movements, or a short meditation. These small practices help me stay present, grounded, and more connected to my feelings and the flow of my writing.

• Journaling space: Following the examples set by Virginia Woolf and John Steinbeck, who both used diaries to reflect on their writing processes, I find it helpful to have a dedicated space for my own reflections. Keeping this separate journal within my writing area has allowed me to acknowledge and track the varied emotions, insights, obstacles, and wins that happen as I work on my writing projects.

And for the times when there is no suitable physical space for writing?

While having a designated safe space is comforting, I’ve found it helpful to remain flexible. Life sometimes takes me to different places, and I might not always have my ideal writing environment. In these moments, I try to bring a sense of my safe space with me, using small, comforting rituals or keeping meaningful objects nearby to create a feeling of security and ease, wherever I am. This gentle adaptability allows my writing practice to continue, even when my surroundings are different from what I’m used to.

If your life is too busy or nomadic to carve out a physical writing space, you might find these alternative approaches helpful:

• Flexible schedule: If finding a dedicated physical space is difficult, consider creating a flexible writing schedule. Look for quieter moments in your daily routine when interruptions are less likely—early mornings, late at night, during breaks, or even while travelling. These moments can provide the space you need to connect with your writing.

• Portable writing tools: Keep portable writing tools handy, like a small notebook or tablet, with you. This allows you to write wherever you find yourself, adapting to your surroundings and making the most of unexpected opportunities to capture your thoughts.

• Symbolic objects: Carry a small, meaningful object that gives you a sense of safety and comfort. It could be a cherished memento or a piece of jewellery that holds personal significance. Having this touchstone can help create a feeling of connection and security, no matter where you are.

• Mindful practices: Use mindfulness and visualisation techniques to create a mental safe space. Take a moment to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and imagine a serene environment that allows you to focus and feel at ease. Visualizing your own inner sanctuary can help bring a sense of calm and centredness to your writing, even amidst the busyness of life.

Invitation:

In today’s invitation, I encourage you to reflect on your writing space.

What elements make your writing space uniquely yours, and how do you navigate the balance between comfort and creativity?

If it feels comfortable for you, please share your insights, tips, or even a picture of your writing space.

Your idea might be just the spark someone else needs!

As this post ends, it's important to acknowledge that the most profound sanctuary exists within us. For this reason, upcoming posts will centre around the process of discovering, befriending, trusting, and leaning into our internal safe place.

Until then,

Helen xx